So many many many people in the blogging, facebook, twitter, ect., forums have seen this. I know its been around, I have seen lots of posts about it from people agreeing, and disagreeing with this girl. While I totally believe that this girl is entitled to her opinion, I respectfully {and maybe kinda disrespectfully} disagree with her 100%.
Yes, maybe its because I'm not even legally able to have a beer yet and I am married, but I'd also like to think that even if I we'rent married, I would still disagree. Maybe its me, but I think making out with my husband is 100xs better than "making out with a stranger". And just because I have made a commitment to my husband through marriage does not mean I cannot "cut my hair", "sign up for crossfit" or "eat a jar of Nutella in one sitting". It just means that I will have someone to tell me how nice my hair cut looks, I have someone to motivate me with crossfit, and I get to share that Nutella. I'm a firm believer that age shouldn't predict how you run your life.
Now I "get it", not everyone feels ready to get married young, some younger people are afraid of that type of commitment. Some people feel they are to young to fully understand the idea of marriage, and that is OK. Also, not only "young" couples get married for the wrong reasons, so do people in their 30s or 40s! I'm no marriage genius, I probably never will be. I have been married for a short of amount of time, and I'm learning new things all the time. I also understand that people want to experience things for themselves, by themselves. I don't feel that I need to live my life that way...maybe settling down with a "white picket fence" is what I want? Who is she to tell me that it's not right? Who is she to tell me I have not lived life yet? By the sound of her article, she isn't yet mature enough for marriage {which is also OK}, based on the things she wants to do INSTEAD of getting engaged.
I'm 20 years old. Yes there are lots of places I have not been to. There are so many things I have not done yet. But I am married. That was a choice we made young, because we love eachother. Did we get married expecting to be another number on the divorce rate? Hell no! My husband and I do what we want to do when we want to do it. Luckily so far we have been on the same page with everything, and we are both supportive of each other. Completely. I do not feel held back from anything. I actually feel more open to things than I have ever felt.
Okay, it also bothered me that she mentioned she thinks marriages are "cop-outs" from dealing with life on our own? 1. No. I didn't marry my husband because I want someone to take on all my burdens or hardships when I have them. 2. God didn't intend for anyone in the world to be alone. To deal with things alone. Whats wrong with having a partner to fight through things with? Whats wrong with having someone motivate you? Just because you are waiting to get married, does not mean that you are going to experience more life than I am. Just because we got married young doesn't mean that I am {or even have to} get pregnant soon and get fat. Therefore, in my book you DO NOT WIN.
Notice how I do not judge or form opinions about those who chose to wait for marriage. Good for you for being and doing what you feel is best for you. But some opinions, entitled or not, are better left unsaid. I am not offended by this girl, I just see a lot of ignorance {some would also say jealousy} in her words.
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